enhance spider with rate limit handling, follow list updates, and improved reconnect logic; bump version to v0.29.0

also reduces CPU load for spider, and minor CORS fixes

contrib/stella/APACHE-PROXY-GUIDE.md

@@ -27,7 +27,7 @@ docker run -d \
   -v /data/orly-relay:/data \
   -e ORLY_OWNERS=npub1v30tsz9vw6ylpz63g0a702nj3xa26t3m7p5us8f2y2sd8v6cnsvq465zjx \
   -e ORLY_ADMINS=npub1v30tsz9vw6ylpz63g0a702nj3xa26t3m7p5us8f2y2sd8v6cnsvq465zjx,npub1l5sga6xg72phsz5422ykujprejwud075ggrr3z2hwyrfgr7eylqstegx9z,npub1m4ny6hjqzepn4rxknuq94c2gpqzr29ufkkw7ttcxyak7v43n6vvsajc2jl \
-  -e ORLY_BOOTSTRAP_RELAYS=wss://profiles.nostr1.com,wss://purplepag.es,wss://relay.nostr.band,wss://relay.damus.io \
+  -e ORLY_BOOTSTRAP_RELAYS=wss://profiles.nostr1.com,wss://purplepag.es,wss://relay.damus.io \
   -e ORLY_RELAY_URL=wss://orly-relay.imwald.eu \
   -e ORLY_ACL_MODE=follows \
   -e ORLY_SUBSCRIPTION_ENABLED=false \

contrib/stella/docker-compose.yml

@@ -28,7 +28,7 @@ services:
       - ORLY_ACL_MODE=follows
 
       # Bootstrap relay URLs for initial sync
-      - ORLY_BOOTSTRAP_RELAYS=wss://profiles.nostr1.com,wss://purplepag.es,wss://relay.nostr.band,wss://relay.damus.io
+      - ORLY_BOOTSTRAP_RELAYS=wss://profiles.nostr1.com,wss://purplepag.es,wss://relay.damus.io
 
       # Subscription Settings (optional)
       - ORLY_SUBSCRIPTION_ENABLED=false