Fix binary tag value handling for e/p tags across database layer

- Update nostr library to v1.0.3 with improved binary tag support
- Replace tag.Value() calls with tag.ValueHex() to handle both binary and hex formats
- Add NormalizeTagValueForHash() for consistent filter tag normalization
- Update QueryPTagGraph to handle binary-encoded and hex-encoded pubkeys
- Fix tag matching in query-events.go using TagValuesMatchUsingTagMethods
- Add filter_utils.go with tag normalization helper functions
- Update delete operations in process-delete.go and neo4j/delete.go
- Fix ACL follows extraction to use ValueHex() for consistent decoding
- Add binary_tag_filter_test.go for testing tag value normalization
- Bump version to v0.30.3

.claude/settings.local.json

@@ -137,7 +137,8 @@
       "Bash(/tmp/orly-test help:*)",
       "Bash(go version:*)",
       "Bash(ss:*)",
-      "Bash(CGO_ENABLED=0 go clean:*)"
+      "Bash(CGO_ENABLED=0 go clean:*)",
+      "Bash(CGO_ENABLED=0 timeout 30 go test:*)"
     ],
     "deny": [],
     "ask": []